Are We Or Are We Not?

In between these unlimited sneezes I experienced due to an allergy and the boring hours brought by a long weekend, I couldn't forget a conversation with a friend about what is my insight on a M.U relationship and I've remembered telling her nothing. Did my friend just hit on a topic that I think for now as unanswerable? Something's pounding my head and things got worse when I grab my phone and I saw myself back reading a late night message from someone, my own definition of M.U., my own Magulong Usapan (this I assumed). The relationship is somewhat a little more than a special friendship, but I am just confused on to what extent the relationship goes right now.

How can you actually say that you're sharing the same special feeling with someone special in your heart?

I don't have any statistics on how many had passed this M.U stage before the real relationship comes. But I do believe that some of those numbers, experienced joy, happiness and pain while savoring this complicated, non-labelled relationship. You fell in love without having the label of being official. You just feel the same feeling, I guess, but the label of being taken or being committed to each other is not yet there. It is still missing. It is still not yet discovered.

You may say the word "I miss you", ask him if he already had lunch or dinner, talk personal things, or one way or another still be clingy but the vow of commitment is totally taken for granted. You can't be jealous over the other because you know you had no right at the first place. You still enjoy the freedom of being single, but get the feeling of being taken by someone. Is this still normal? Is this not complicated enough for you to handle? Why can't you even brand the relationship properly? Are you afraid? Or is he the one scared? Are you both terrified to take risks? To take the commitments? No one can really explain why couples and the not so couples need to take this stage of a relationship. Reasons are everywhere. The important thing is, at the end of the road, the lesson must be learned. Either good or bad, either had a happy ending or just a tragic one. You choose to have it so you must accept the route wherever it may lead you.

Lucky are those who started on a "more than friends, less than a lovers relationship" but found their way home to each other's arms in the end. Lucky are those who tried the so called "pseudo-relationship" but had the best of both worlds when they held strong fighting ignoring the pseudo and making the relationship real. Lucky are those who were once tagged as "unofficial" but claimed the right label at the finish line of the game.

But for those whose status were still hanging, waiting and are on the verge of surrendering, just don't be afraid. Seek the opportunity to explore the feelings towards each other. Whatever you have named your relationship right now, it wouldn't be complicated if you still do what you think what is right, if you follow what your heart is telling you to do and if you voice out what you really feel. Express. You don't always need a plan. You don't have to use Letter A to Z just to make it. You just have to breathe, trust, let go and see what happens beyond. You'll see.

Don't just sit there comfortably and wait for a Mutual Understanding before it became a Mis -Understanding and urge you to Mess Up because in the end, there will come a time that you will regret the chances you didn't take, the decisions you waited too long to decide, the actions you forget to show and the relationship you were too afraid to have and embrace. Someday, you will regret that you have failed to see a love beyond an un-labelled relationship just because you have those reasons that cannot save you now from the pain you are feeling. You will be haunted by a mere thought of letting that person go just because you were afraid to take the MU to the next level and you were scared to a single word, "commitment".